When we say goodbye to a beloved pet, the grief is felt not only by the people in the family but often by the other animals in the home as well. Pets form deep bonds with each other, and when one passes away, the change can be confusing and even distressing for the ones left behind. As you navigate your own grief, it can help to know what to expect and how to support your surviving pets through this transition.
Do Pets Really Grieve?
While animals don’t grieve in the same way humans do, many show clear signs of loss. Dogs and cats, in particular, may:
Seem quieter or less playful
Sleep more than usual
Lose interest in food
Wander the house searching for their friend
Vocalize more (whining, meowing)
Seek extra closeness from you
These behaviors are normal and usually temporary. Most pets adjust within a few weeks, though some may take longer.
How You Can Help
Here are a few ways to gently support your pet during this time:
1. Keep Routines Consistent
Pets thrive on predictability. Regular feeding times, walks, and bedtime routines give them stability and comfort.
2. Offer Extra Attention
Allow for more cuddle time, play, or gentle walks. Your pet may look to you for reassurance, and this shared connection can be healing for you both.
3. Provide Enrichment
New toys, puzzle feeders, or safe social outings can help redirect their energy and lift their spirits.
4. Monitor Health
Sometimes grief can suppress appetite or cause stress-related illness. If your pet stops eating, has digestive issues, or seems unusually withdrawn, consult your veterinarian to rule out medical causes.
5. Allow Space
Just like people, pets grieve differently. Some may cling to you, while others prefer quiet time alone. Respecting their pace is an important part of healing.
Should Surviving Pets Be Present During Euthanasia?
Many families wonder if it helps for their other pets to be present during a euthanasia appointment. While it’s a personal decision, allowing them to be nearby can sometimes reduce confusion afterward, as they seem to understand their companion has passed rather than endlessly searching for them.
Healing Together
The loss of a pet changes the rhythm of the entire household. By gently supporting your surviving pets, you also give yourself the gift of companionship in grief. Remember, you are all adjusting to life without a beloved friend. With patience, love, and time, healing will come.